Rock on Moms!
Perfectionist much? Especially pertaining to parenting?
Whew. I know. Me too.
Is it ok to play with the kids instead of washing the dishes? Leave toys lying around? Or to let beds go unmade in lieu of a walk to the park with the kiddos?
HELL YEAH.
Oh but I didn't used to think so. So wrapped up was I in what others would think of me as a mom if I didn't appear to have all my shit under control and perfect kids.
HELL YEAH.
Oh but I didn't used to think so. So wrapped up was I in what others would think of me as a mom if I didn't appear to have all my shit under control and perfect kids.
The struggle is real. I know it. A lot of the decisions we feel inclined to make as mothers are connected to a sticky web of " what will others think". No?
And the mom guilt.
And the mom guilt.
FUUUUCCCKKK.
The mom guilt. This one drags me around my my nose half the time.
We choose one thing and then beat ourselves silly bc we are guilty we didn't choose the other thing. We work and feel bad. We stay home and we feel bad. If our kids aren't the smartest, the cleanest, the most hip, get all A's or eat nothing but gluten-free organic food, we feel bad or "less than".
Compare compare compare.
We choose one thing and then beat ourselves silly bc we are guilty we didn't choose the other thing. We work and feel bad. We stay home and we feel bad. If our kids aren't the smartest, the cleanest, the most hip, get all A's or eat nothing but gluten-free organic food, we feel bad or "less than".
Compare compare compare.
Last year I found a friend. A mom friend. The kind of mom friend who fucking rocks because she has the same philosophy as you.
Our kids connected and became best buddies immediately, and we grew to enjoy one another's company also, looking forward to afternoons at the park waiting on the girls to finish school, feeling completely comfortable "being ourselves" with each other.
This is rare y'all.
Our kids connected and became best buddies immediately, and we grew to enjoy one another's company also, looking forward to afternoons at the park waiting on the girls to finish school, feeling completely comfortable "being ourselves" with each other.
This is rare y'all.
What kind of mom am I?
I am fierce with my kids, especially my daughters. I strive every day to remind them to know how awesome and amazing and beautiful they each are. And that they have a calling and a purpose in this world, their one job is to find it and run with it as far as it will take them.
I am fierce with my kids, especially my daughters. I strive every day to remind them to know how awesome and amazing and beautiful they each are. And that they have a calling and a purpose in this world, their one job is to find it and run with it as far as it will take them.
We don't eat all organic food, far from it. Buying food for a household of 6, we don't exactly shop at "Whole Paycheck" if you get my drift.
My kids probably have too much screen time.
Their rooms aren't as clean as they probably "should" be.
I yell too much.
Sometimes when they argue I pretend I don't hear it, on the premise that I want them to work it out and learn to get along, but admittedly because I just don't want to go break it up for the umpteenth time this week.
My teenagers listen to music that is offensive but...well...i was a teenager once too and my music meant everything to me. So I let this go, telling myself they will not be scarred or ruined bc of a few "bad words". Hell, they hear those words from me anyways so what's the difference really? Then my 14 year old comes into the kitchen and wants to share a song with me, that has moved her and made her think about social issues..it has impacted her. At which point I decide to let myself off the guilt hook about letting her choose her own music.
My kids probably have too much screen time.
Their rooms aren't as clean as they probably "should" be.
I yell too much.
Sometimes when they argue I pretend I don't hear it, on the premise that I want them to work it out and learn to get along, but admittedly because I just don't want to go break it up for the umpteenth time this week.
My teenagers listen to music that is offensive but...well...i was a teenager once too and my music meant everything to me. So I let this go, telling myself they will not be scarred or ruined bc of a few "bad words". Hell, they hear those words from me anyways so what's the difference really? Then my 14 year old comes into the kitchen and wants to share a song with me, that has moved her and made her think about social issues..it has impacted her. At which point I decide to let myself off the guilt hook about letting her choose her own music.
Let's just be REAL. Live for real. From our hearts, we can't go wrong. Don't give two fucks about what other moms are doing or anyone else for that matter. Living integrously means that you stay in alignment with what YOU feel is okay and right. Make mistakes, tons of them. And let yourself off the hook about it.
Embrace each day as a new one, stop dragging yesterday around.
Embrace each day as a new one, stop dragging yesterday around.
Nobody's perfect.
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